self-compassion (secular videos)

   Two Ph.d. in psychology (Kristen Neff and Chris Germer) teach the importance of giving yourself kindness, forgiveness and acceptance (i.e., the Golden Rule is love others as you love yourself). They have many videos on youtube.

Stop beating up yourself. Love yourself as God loves you.
"Care for yourself with compassion instead of trying to fight yourself with criticism."
"When I accept myself as I am, then I can change."
Embrace and accept yourself even if (or especially if) you are embarrassed or ashamed. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself inner-support.

   God forgives you. Receive His gifts to you. Forgive, love and accept yourself. This does not mean any behavior is ok; it does mean that when you can admit and soothe your hurts, then the result should be you are going to be a better person and more compassionate to others.