releasing the need for approval (secular)

From Hale Dwoskin (Sedona Method):
Most of us feel that without others approving of [us] we have no value. The risk of being addicted to others' approval is that you end up living your life for other people. You don't feel free to pursue your own goals and dreams, [or] you feel guilty for it.

Here is a process to stop your habit of seeking approval where you will never truly find it. Think of someone whose approval you would like and in this moment simply ask yourself:

• Could I let go of wanting to get approval (love) from this person?
• Would I?
• When?
• Could I allow myself to give myself approval (love) directly, as best I can?"