personal development versus relationship

Personal development is helpful. Relationship is amazing.

Here's  short summary of recent, very good, self-help Emails.
Brian Tracy: Become all you can be.
1. Learn the "law of cause and effect".
2. Do your actions truly reflect your values?
3. What is your long term plan for yourself, in each area of life (dream big, idealize yourself)?
4. Break down your vision into 10 specific initial goals - and write them down and think about them - and start acting like you've already achieved the goals. 
5. Include goals to upgrade your personal knowledge and skills, and make sure these goals are measurable (e.g., read 2 books a month on management).
6. "Select the specific habits and behaviors you will need to practice every day to become the person you want to become. These could be the habits of clarity, planning, thoroughness, studiousness, hard work, determination, and persistence."
7. "Decide today to develop yourself to the point where you can achieve every financial and personal goal you ever set and become everything you are capable of becoming. Write down your goals and make sure to look at them every day, then ponder ways you possibly achieve these goals."

Jack Canfield:
1. What goals do you want to achieve by year end?
2. How are you developing yourself personally, professionally, and spiritually?
3. What negative behaviors, thoughts or patterns will you release, and form what new habits?
4. How do you want to FEEL?
5. What major achievements do you want to be celebrating on New Year's Eve?
"The clearer you get on the answers to these questions, the easier it will be for you to make your vision a reality."

When the answers to these types of questions come from your seeking and hearing/feeling your creator show you, and lead you, and draw out the treasure within you - THAT's amazing. Don't force it. Seek Him. Let Him give you the vision.