no doormats (secular)

We SHOULD follow The Golden Rule.
And we SHOULD NOT be a doormat!
​Boundaries matter!
Stay away from bad people.
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Give freely. Forgive everyone. BUT DO NOT allow yourself to be manipulated or abused.
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​Kim Saeed says "the Bible is very clear about how to handle abusive and manipulative people.." and she quotes Paul's 2d letter to Timothy: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, having a form of godliness, but denying its power…and from such people TURN AWAY.

     "Empaths want to soothe the narcissist’s hurts and help them feel secure, but the narcissist wants to siphon the Empath’s compassionate energy like fuel for an engine.
I’ve seen too many Empaths completely destroyed because they mistakenly believe the narcissist is a tortured soul who can be healed by the Empath’s unconditional love and ever-vigilant devotion."

SET BOUNDARIES AND LET PEOPLE BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR OWN ACTIONS.

     "The most loving thing we can do for another human being is to hold them accountable for their actions instead of cleaning up for them every time. Otherwise, we’re teaching them that it’s okay to continue doing the hurtful things that they do."

   "Narcissists are morally bankrupt individuals who do not appreciate the things other people do for them. Instead, they feel completely entitled to whatever love and devotion are directed towards them. The truth is, every person the narcissist has ever been involved with gave them this unconditional love, but sadly, narcissists consider such love and devotion disposable. They know there are lots of wounded people who are afraid to implement boundaries for fear of losing relationships, and most narcissists [happily prey upon these persons]."