identifying destructive soul ties

Blog from Dennis & Jen Clark. 
If you feel "stuck" or "enchanted"/under a spell, or can't quite choose or think or act as you wish, or keep running into the same problem or same type of problem people, consider if there is a "soul tie" (an invisible leash) on you. Choose to cut it off. Read their blog (and book). Here's a list excerpted from their blog, of ways soul ties can attach (there's no doubt innumerable ways):
1. Association - You form ties with the people with whom you associate, and because of the ties you begin to share their habits/conduct (good or bad). So stay away from toxic people, bond with good people.
2. Toxic Emotions - You form negative ties with those you hate, so forgive, and then intentionally let love flow from your heart to the person. Let God cut the cord while you bless them. Wounds in the soul and anger also make ties. Release them, get your soul healed.
3. Sex - Seducing spirits get involved in unholy sex and the ties are strong, which is why Christians are warned away from idolatry and unholy sex, and it was encouraged in paganism. Note this includes holiness of heart and mind, not just in conduct (a really really high standard). 
4. Prolonged Grief - If someone can't move past the grief stage, it will sometimes attract demonic manifestations of the deceased, and sometimes is passed along in families.
5. Manipulation - Using or manipulating another person for any reason is witchcraft. Do not do it. If you feel exhausted, confused, not in control of yourself, see if you're under someone else's control. If so, cut the cord.
6. Pride - Preoccupation with yourself will tie you up worse than anything. 
7.Evil Attraction - Spirits attract other spirits. So, if you've ever been victimized (by sex or violence or manipulative people, or etc.), you are probably a target for more. Cut the cords. Fast.
8. Agendas - If you are fixated on something you want (even if its a good thing), if you're driven by it, and can't let go, you're bound to it and bound by it, it is a lust of sorts, a seducing spirit. Cut it off you.
9. Secrecy and Gossip - Any agreement to secrecy creates a tie between those in the secret. It its also gossip, its very dangerous, the gossip will penetrate your soul and tie you up.
10. Idolatry - Anyone or anything you wish to have or to please more than God is an idol. This includes parents, bosses, government, jobs, houses, etc. Delight yourself in God. Everything else is second. If you're discontent, you may need to identify an idol in your life and cut the tie.