15 qualities of mentally tough people (secular)

Link to Success article by Travis Bradberry. Here is the list:

1.emotionally intelligent. You need the ability to fully understand and tolerate strong negative emotions and do something productive with them. only 1/3 of people are able to accurately identify their emotions as they happen.

2.confident. “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t—you’re right.” – Henry Ford. True confidence—is not the false confidence people project to mask their insecurities.

3.neutralize toxic people. "Mentally tough people control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check... Even when things completely derail, mentally tough people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down."

4.embrace change."You need to have an open mind and open arms if you’re going to recognize, and capitalize on, the opportunities that change creates."

5.say no. "...the more difficulty you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout and even depression. Mentally tough people know that saying no is healthy, and they have the self-esteem and foresight to make their no’s clear."

6.fear is the No. 1 source of regret. "Dwelling too long on your mistakes makes you anxious and gun shy, while forgetting about them completely makes you bound to repeat them. The key to balance lies in your ability to transform failures into nuggets of improvement. This creates the tendency to get right back up every time you fall down."

7.embrace failure…"By revealing when you’re on the wrong path, mistakes pave the way for you to succeed. The biggest breakthroughs typically come when you’re feeling the most frustrated and the most stuck. It’s this frustration that forces you to think differently, to look outside the box and to see the solution that you’ve been missing."

8. …But don’t dwell on mistakes. "...where you focus your attention determines your emotional state. When you fixate on the problems that you’re facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance. When you focus on actions to better yourself and your circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy, which produces positive emotions and improves performance."

9.Don’t let anyone limit joy…"When mentally tough people feel good about something they do, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or accomplishments take that away from them."

10. …and don’t limit the joy of others."Mentally tough people don’t pass judgment on others because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don’t need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves. Comparing yourself to other people is limiting. Jealousy and resentment suck the life right out of you; they’re massive energy-stealers. Mentally tough people don’t waste time or energy sizing people up and worrying about whether or not they measure up. Instead of wasting your energy on jealousy, funnel that energy into appreciation. When you celebrate the success of other people, you both benefit."

11.exercise.
12.sleep.
13.limit caffeine.

14.don’t wait for an apology to forgive."The negative emotions that come with holding on to a grudge create a stress response in your body, and holding on to stress can have devastating consequences (physically and mentally). When you forgive someone, it doesn’t condone their actions; it simply frees you from being their eternal victim."

15.relentlessly positive."..mentally tough people don’t get caught up in things they can’t control... they focus their energy on directing the two things that are completely within their power—their attention and their effort."